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Our Family and some Photos
Frank Robben
June 1999
Cynthia says she misses living on Kialoa, meeting the morning with her
coffee in the cockpit of Kialoa, observing the sea, other yachts, people,
surroundings. With Kialoa we have been in crowded marinas, commercial ports,
isolated bays surrounded by mountains, in turquoise waters off tropical
islands with swaying palm trees, and, of course, at sea under sail. I am
glad Cynthia misses it, and I have many wonderful memories.
Daily living on land is rather different, we become swept up in a round
of activities and information, overload perhaps. Maybe it is just the modern
places, like Honolulu, that create this perspective, perhaps life in a remote
place without modern amenities could bring some of the pleasures of living
on a yacht.
Our temporary home is at the very upper end of Manoa Valley, Honolulu, with
tropical forest rising behind us and the high-rise buildings of Waikiki
silhouetted against the sea at the mouth of the valley. The mountains shield
us from the prevailing north-ease trade winds, but also create rain and
strong gusts as the moisture laden air rises over the 2000 foot ridge. We
are in a very wet spot, but 3 miles down the valley in Waikiki there is
very little rain. Such is the local weather here. From our house we can
easily hike to the popular Manoa waterfall, and with a bit of climbing can
visit the two upper falls with spectacular views over the valley and Pacific
Ocean. A pleasant location, and our rented house is open and spacious.
In
our house there are 6 of us. Cynthia's elder sister Sylvia arrived at the
end of March, it is the first time she has ever been out of Sri Lanka, or
been in an airplane. She was widowed 2 years ago and lives in her own home
near Kandy with her daughter Gehanie and son Gehan, both working. Her younger
son Nalin is studying engineering at the university in Colombo, all her
children encouraged and helped her to come and visit us. My sister-in-law
impresses me as a very kind, rather quiet and dignified person. The children
love her dearly, she was their second mother in Sri Lanka. I enjoy her presence
and we all love to show her the things here that are so different than in
Sri Lanka. Sylvia will return to Sri Lanka in August.
Dalreen,
now 20, is working for Roberts of Hawaii, a large local tour company. She
is a hostess on a party ship, a large catamaran which takes up to 500 guests
out for dinner cruises. She enjoys it and we are happy that she has a compatible
job. She just received her High School diploma from the adult school here
in Honolulu.
Adrian and Dalreen left high school in Dixon in 1997 and sailed with us
from California to Pitcairn Island, Tahiti, Tonga, arriving in New Zealand
in November. In January 1998 they returned to Dixon and high school and
lived with their brother Anthony in an apartment. In January of this year
they again left Dixon High School and joined us here in Honolulu.
Adrian,
now 18, entered Roosevelt High School and has formed several friends. He
purchased a small moped and so has his own transportation - and a machine
to keep running. He has grown a lot since he joined us in Dixon three years
ago.
Maria, 11,
has finished 7th grade at Sacred Hearts Academy, a Catholic, academically
oriented private school. She has been with us on Kialoa, attended a couple
of schools for a short period when we were in New Zealand, and reentered
schooling mainstream last year in November. Perhaps a bit hard, but she
has done well and learned a lot, both academically and socially. She is
anxious to return to Dixon, to familiar friends, school and places.
Anthony,
Cynthia's oldest son and now 23, sailed with us from New Zealand and is
living in an apartment in Honolulu and working at Chai's, a somewhat posh
restaurant on the waterfront, as a waiter. He likes it here, goes surfing
almost every day and dresses very mod. He plans to stay.
Cynthia
and I are at a bit of a crossroads, we are not sure how life will develop
now that I am retired. Yes, it does really seem like retirement even though
I retired from the University 14 years ago, as at the moment I have not
begun any intensive project and I also have one of the traditional retirement
goals of traveling (by normal means) to a number of places. We enjoy living
here in Honolulu, but it seems best, for the present at least, to return
to my hometown of Dixon.
More on
family. My mother Lillian, 91 and my stepfather Irvin Bulkley, 92, live
in Dixon. Irvin has not retired from limited cattle raising and farming,
he commutes from town to his farm 6 miles in the country every day and is
pleased to still be "in business". They are doing quite well but
age is taking its toll. I am so glad that they are still able to enjoy life.
It will be good being in Dixon again and seeing them regularly.
My daughter Pippi, 31, lives in San Diego and, as I understand it, works
getting clothing together for television shows and commercials. It is a
freelance sort of job, sporadic, she has graduated from a clothing design
school and enjoys the work. She visited us in February for a week, we toured
Hawaii and had a great time. Maria and Pippi get on very well together,
they are the youngest and the "pets" of the respective families
and have generally cheerful and outgoing attitudes.
My older daughter Katie, her husband Thomas Fox and my three grandchildren
Bjorn, Anders and Linnae spent the week just before New Year's with us,
we went sailing for several days and visited the neighboring islands of
Molokai, Lanai and Maui. We had beautiful weather, the winds were relatively
light and the sea was "sailing friendly". They live just north
of San Francisco, in Stinson Beach, and Tom works in the city for a small
firm involved in computer programs for financial trading. He is expert at
both programming and economic problems and does well, works hard and travels
quite a bit. The grandchildren are wonderful, cute kids and they enjoyed
the sailing. When Bjorn was less than one he sailed with us from Portugal
to Gibraltar (with his parents also, of course) and has memories of that
trip, albeit from photos and discussions.
My oldest son Michael has been living in Tokyo for several years and teaches
english there. He also visited us in Honolulu in January and we toured some
museums and archeological sites, passions of his.
We have had other visitors, Hawaii is an attractive place and easy to visit.
Life here is pleasant and we have been fairly social. Dawn Smith, who sailed
with us from Fiji, stayed quite a while and plans to return. Our next door
neighbors when we lived in Dixon, Alisha and Chuey, spent a week with us.
Jim and Polly Ann Naylor visited for a couple of days on their way to Kaui.
Nigel Robertson and Marty Bransgrove, who skillfully performed 3 months
worth of maintenance and upgrades on Kialoa for her for the trip Turkey,
became good friends and we have shared meals several times. Marty, an Aussie,
is working on a neighbor's boat, and Nigel, more nearly my age and a respected
sailor and ship's carpenter, is delivering a yacht to San Francisco. We
have met more friends through the children, parents of their friends, and
Cynthia has made several friends from Sri Lanka.
Our next door neighbor, who recently retired, has an interesting and somewhat
unusual project. He is raising and training racing pigeons and has constructed
an elaborate pigeon house with about 30 young pigeons. Both morning and
evening he lets them out for flight and exercise, they swoop around the
area here, all in a group, and after a while he calls them back with various
whistle commands. Later he will enter them in races, the object seems to
be to have the whole group return to their "home" from a remote
location in the fastest time. But a bit more complicated, I am sure.
Our stay here in Honolulu will draw to a close shortly, it will be interesting
to see how we will live and work in California, how the children do in school
and jobs.
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